Monday, December 22, 2008

Story of Rudolph


The True Story of Rudolph

The story behind the story


On a December night in Chicago many years ago, a little girl climbed onto her father's lap and asked a question. It was a simple question, asked in children's curiosity, yet it had a heart-rending effect on Robert May.
"Daddy," four-year-old Barbara May asked, "Why isn't my mommy just like everybody else's mommy?"
Bob May stole a glance across his shabby two-room apartment. On a couch lay his young wife, Evelyn, racked with cancer. For two years she had been bedridden. For two years, all of Bob's small income and smaller savings had gone to pay for treatments and medication.
The terrible ordeal had already shattered two adult lives. Now, Bob suddenly realized the happiness of his growing daughter was also in jeopardy. As he ran his fingers through Barbara's hair, he groped for some satisfactory answer to her question.
Bob May knew only too well what it meant to be 'different'. As a child he had been weak and delicate. With the innocent cruelty of children, his playmates had continually goaded the stunted, skinny lad to tears. Later, at Dartsmouth, from which he graduated in 1936, Bob May was so small that he was always being mistaken for someone's little brother.
Nor was his adult life much happier. Unlike many of his classmates who floated from college into plush jobs, Bob became a lowly copy writer for Montgomery Ward, the big Chicago mail order house. Now at 33, Bob was deep in debt, depressed and sad.
Although, he didn't know it at the time, the answer he gave the little child on his lap was to bring him fame and fortune. It was also to bring joy to countless thousands of children like his own Barbara. On that December night in the shabby Chicago apartment, Bob cradled the little girl's head against his shoulder and began to tell a story . . .
"Once upon a time, there was a reindeer named Rudolph, the only reindeer in the world that had a big red nose. Naturally people called him "Rudolph, the red-nosed reindeer." As Bob went on to tell about Rudolph, he tried desperately to communicate to Barbara the knowledge that, even though some creatures of God are strange and different, they often enjoy the miraculous power to make others happy.
"Rudolph," Bob explained, "was terribly embarrassed by his unique nose. Other reindeer laughed at him; his mother and father and sister were mortified, too. Even Rudolph wallowed in self pity."
"Why was I born with such a terrible nose?" he cried.
"Well," continued Bob, "one Christmas eve, Santa Claus got his team of husky reindeer - Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, and Vixen, and the others -- ready for their yearly trip around the world. The entire reindeer community assembled to cheer these great heroes on their way. But, a terrible fog engulfed the earth that evening, and Santa knew that the mist was so thick that he wouldn't be able to find a single chimney."
"Suddenly Rudolph appeared, his read nose glowing brighter than ever. Santa sensed at once that here was the answer to his perplexing problem. He led Rudolph to the front of the sleigh, fastened the harness and climbed in. They were off! Rudolph guided Santa safely to every chimney that night. Rain, and fog, snow and sleet -- nothing bothered Rudolph for his bright red nose penetrated like a beacon."
"And, so it was that Rudolph became the most famous and beloved of all the reindeer. The huge red nose he once hid in shame was now the envy of every buck and doe in the reindeer world. Santa Claus told everyone that Rudolph had saved the day, and from that Christmas on, Rudolph has been living serenely and happy."
Little Barbara laughed with glee when her father had finished. Every night she begged him to repeat the tale until finally Bob could rattle it off in his sleep. Then, at Christmas time, he decided to make the story into a poem like the 'Night Before Christmas' and prepare it in a booklet form with crude illustrations, for Barbara's personal gift.
Night after night, Bob worked on the verses after Barbara had gone to bed, for he was determined that his daughter should have a worthwhile gift, even though he could not afford to buy one.
Then, as Bob was about to put the finishing touches on Rudolph, tragedy struck. Evelyn May died. Bob, his hopes crushed, turned to Barbara as his chief comfort. Yet, despite his grief, he sat at his desk in the quiet, now lonely apartment, and worked on Rudolph with tears in his eyes.
Shortly after Barbara had cried with joy over his handmade gift on Christmas morning, Bob was asked to an employee's holiday party at Montgomery Wards. He didn't want to go, but his office associates insisted. When Bob finally agreed, he took with him the poem and read it to the crowd. At first the noisy throng listened in laughter and gaiety. Then, they became silent, and at the end broke into spontaneous applause. That was in 1938.
By Christmas of 1947, some 6 million copies of the booklet had been given away or sold, making Rudolph one of the most widely distributed books in the world. The demand for Rudolph sponsored products increased so much in variety and number that educators and historians predicted Rudolph would occupy a permanent niche in the Christmas legend.
Through the years of unhappiness, the tragedy of his wife's death and his ultimate success with Rudolph, Bob May has captured a sense of serenity. And as each Christmas rolls around he recalled with thankfulness the night when his daughter's questions inspired him to write the story.

Thursday, December 18, 2008

How did christmas start?

Christmas

Where did it come from?

Where is it going?

In many countries of the world, the celebration of Christmas on December 25th is a high point of the year. But why? Can it have any real meaning for us today? Is there a 'real' Christmas message?

Christmas celebrations in the West today

From November onwards, it is impossible to forget that Christmas is coming. Coloured lights decorate many town centres and shops, along with shiny decorations, and artificial snow painted on shop windows.

In streets and shops, 'Christmas trees' (real or plastic evergreen 'conifer' trees) will also be decorated with lights and Christmas ornaments.

Toast Glasses
Shopping centres become busier as December approaches and often stay open till late.Shopping centre speaker systems systems will play Christmas 'carols' - the traditional Christmas Christian songs, and groups of people will often sing carols on the streets to raise money for charity. Most places of work will hold a short Christmas party about a week before Christmas. Although traditional Christmas foods may be eaten, drink (and plenty of it) means that little work will be done after the party!

By mid-December, most homes will also be decorated with Christmas trees, coloured lights and paper or plastic decorations around the rooms. These days, many more people also decorate garden trees or house walls with coloured electric lights, a habit which has long been popular in USA.

Christmas Tree
In many countries, most people post Christmas greeting cards to their friends and family, and these cards will be hung on the walls of their homes. In UK this year, the British Post Office expects to handle over 100 million cards EACH DAY, in the three weeks before Christmas.
Christmas cards

The custom of sending Christmas cards started in Britain in 1840 when the first 'Penny Post' public postal deliveries began. (Helped by the new railway system, the public postal service was the 19th century's communication revolution, just as email is for us today.) As printing methods improved, Christmas cards were produced in large numbers from about 1860. They became even more popular in Britain when a card could be posted in an unsealed envelope for one half-penny - half the price of an ordinary letter.

Traditionally, Christmas cards showed religious pictures - Mary, Joseph and baby Jesus, or other parts of the Christmas story. Today, pictures are often jokes, winter pictures, Father Christmas, or romantic scenes of life in past times.

Christmas Cards
Father Christmas The old man with the sack

'Father Christmas' (or 'Santa Claus') has become the human face of Christmas. Pictures will be seen everywhere of the old man with long white beard, red coat, and bag of toys. Children are taught that he brings them presents the night before Christmas (or in some countries on December 6th - St. Nicholas' Day), and many children up to the age of 7 or 8 really believe this is true. In most countries, it is said that he lives near the North Pole, and arrives through the sky on a sledge (snow-cart) pulled by reindeer. He comes into houses down the chimney at midnight and places presents for the children in socks or bags by their beds or in front of the family Christmas tree.

In shops or at children's parties, someone will dress up as Father Christmas and give small presents to children, or ask them what gifts they want for Christmas. Christmas can be a time of magic and excitement for children.

Who was he?

Father Christmas is based on a real person, St. Nicholas, which explains his other name 'Santa Claus' which comes from the Dutch 'Sinterklaas'. Nicholas was a Christian leader from Myra (in modern-day Turkey) in the 4th century AD. He was very shy, and wanted to give money to poor people without them knowing about it. It is said that one day, he climbed the roof of a house and dropped a purse of money down the chimney. It landed in the stocking which a girl had put to dry by the fire! This may explain the belief that Father Christmas comes down the chimney and places gifts in children's stockings.

Boxing Day

In English-speaking countries, the day following Christmas Day is called 'Boxing Day'. This word comes from the custom which started in the Middle Ages around 800 years ago: churches would open their 'alms boxe' (boxes in which people had placed gifts of money) and distribute the contents to poor people in the neighbourhood on the day after Christmas. The tradition continues today - small gifts are often given to delivery workers such as postal staff and children who deliver newspapers.

Making sense of Christmas

Today in the West, not many people consider the religious meaning to Christmas. Most people in UK or Europe will not go to a religious church meeting, even at Christmas. It has become a busy race to spend money on presents, and get ready for the Day. In UK, our shops stay open till late Christmas Eve and often open again on Boxing Day with the cut-price 'sales'. (Not much holiday for the poor shop workers!) A visitor from another world would think that Christmas was a festival to the gods of money and shopping.

What do you want from Christmas?

Many people do hope for more than presents at Christmas. We want to somehow return to a time in our childhood (or some other good time in the past), when life was simpler and made more sense, before the troubles of adult life arrived. We feel sure that behind all the fun and decorations, there must somehow be a message, something more, some key to life, hope and happiness.

So can we look beyond the way Christmas is celebrated today, and find any real meaning, any message for our lives today?

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The real Christmas Story
What really happened?
How did the story end?
OR DID IT?
The Manger by Pearlie Walker - Poem
'C H R I S T M A S' by Joan Clifton Costner - Poem
'~ Christmas in the Air ~' by Marie Williams - Poem
'Christmas Memories' by Marie Williams - Poem
Mohinder's true story
Christmas was just a good time to drink extra whisky and beer for Mohinder, until he found the real meaning of Christmas.
The problem page
Christmas can often be a time of debt, stress, worry, loneliness, even suicide.
Our problem pages try to help.

How did Christmas start?

Since about 400 AD, Christians have celebrated the birth of Jesus. 'Christ' means 'Messiah' or 'Anointed One' - the title given to Jesus - and 'Mass' was a religious festival.

In the West today, the real meaning of Christmas is often forgotten. It has become a non-religious holiday! More children believe in Father Christmas than in Jesus. Christmas Day is a time for eating and drinking too much and watching television.

But the real Christmas story is found in the Christian Bible. It is told in two different books: Matthew and Luke chapters 1 and 2. If you have no Bible, you can read these chapters online. You may think that the story of the birth of Jesus, and the way that the West celebrates Christmas today, do not seem to have many connections.

Mary says "yes"

Mary & Joseph on journey
copyright New Tribes
These chapters tell how Jesus was born as a baby to Mary. This was no ordinary birth! She was not married, she was a virgin, (yes, really!) and an angel had told her she would bear a special baby. Her husband-to-be, Joseph, did not believe her at first. Who would? Then an angel told him in a dream that it was true! Probably no one else believed it. So when they had to travel from their home in Nazareth to Bethlehem (near Jerusalem), to register their names with the ruling Roman government, they probably escaped many hard words from other people.
Nativity

Arrival in Bethlehem brought worry and upset: there was no room for them to stay at the hotel. There was only space in the stable - the animal house for travellers' donkeys and horses.

Jesus was born that night, and as they had no bed for him, they used an animal feeding box filled with the dry grass the animals ate.

Christmas cards and pictures today make it all seem very nice. In truth, it must have been dirty and frightening for a young couple, far from their home and families. Possibly the birth was premature after the stress of the journey. This was a very poor place for Jesus to start his life on earth.

God's plan?

Christians believe that it was exactly God's plan that things happened this way. They say that it shows that Jesus came as a humble, poor person and not as a strong, rich king. They also claim that the birth of Jesus was told many years before in the books of the prophets.

Five hundred years before, the prophet Micah had said,

"But you Bethlehem, though you are small, out of you will come for me, one who will be ruler over Israel, whose origins are from of old, from ancient times."

The prophet Isaiah had written,

"A child is born to us! A son is given to us! And he will be our ruler.

He will be called, "Wonderful Counsellor," "Mighty God," "Eternal Father," "Prince of Peace." His royal power will continue to grow; his kingdom will always be at peace....

He will rule as King David's successor, basing his power on right and justice, from now until the end of time."

These are only two of many prophetic words that told of the birth and life of Jesus, written hundreds of years before His birth.

The shepherds are frightened
Angel & Shepherds
copyright New Tribes
At that time, sheep farmers were seen by other people as low and of no value. Yet it was to these shepherds that the birth of Jesus was first announced in an amazing dramatic way:

"That night there were some men looking after sheep in the fields nearby. Suddenly they saw a great light. It was an angel, who said,

Shepherds
'Don't be afraid. I have good news for you, and for all people. Someone great has been born today. He is Christ, the great King you have been waiting for. He will save you from all that is wrong and evil. You will find him dressed in baby clothes, lying on a bed of dry grass.'"

The story of the wise men

After Jesus was born, wise men came to look for Him, from an area which is now in either Iran or Saudi Arabia. Although they are often called the "Three Kings", the Bible does not say how many there were, or that they were kings. Three is only a guess because they brought with them three gifts.

Gold, Frankincense and Myrrh

Three wise men

They were certainly men of learning - probably today we would call them philosophers or scientists. They had seen an unusual new star in the sky, and knew that it told of the birth of a special king. (The star they saw was probably a exploding "supernova" and is known from astronomical records.) They followed the direction of the star and eventually found the place where Mary, Joseph and Jesus were staying. To bring honour to the child, they brought rich gifts: gold, frankincense (a resin which burns with a beautiful smell), and myrrh (plant oil with a very strong sweet smell). These gifts tell us in pictures three key things about Jesus:

Gold: a gift fit for a King

Frankincense: burnt in worship of God

Myrrh: a sign of mortal human-ness - it was used to bury the dead

Jesus a refugee

Herod, the evil king of the area, heard about the child, saw Him as a threat, and sent soldiers to kill Jesus. But God told Joseph in a dream to take Mary and the baby and escape to Egypt. They lived there till King Herod died and then went back to live in Nazareth. We read nothing more about the life of Jesus, except for one story when he was 12, until He reached 30. By the way - note one important thing: Jesus was not a white European, and Christianity is not a Western religion. Christmas cards from different countries often show Mary, Joseph and Jesus in the landscape of that country, and with the racial appearance of that nationality, be it black African, Indian, or Japanese. This is good and right - Jesus came to identify with every racial group. He is "Everyman" for us all.

The end of the story?

Here is a newspaper cartoon printed some years ago, showing Father Christmas reading the Christmas story to a child. "But how did it end?" the child asks. Behind them, you can see the Cross (execution pole) on which Jesus was killed at the age of 33.

Jesus was indeed "the man born to die". But that was not the end of the story. It is still going on, and you can be part of the story, if you wish.

santa and the cross

"But how did it end?"

with permission: courtesy
The Guardian/Observer

No other person has had such an effect on human lives as Jesus. He came back to life again, and millions say they know Him today as a friend and helper in their lives. You owe it to yourself to find out more about Him. Is He who He claimed to be? Can He help us in our lives today? You have nothing to lose! Christmas is the time to stop and think about these important questions.

What Christmas is all about? - Poem

Little Baby Jesus - Poem

The Manger Scene - Poem

Blessed Holy Night -Poem

The Perfect Tree.
A Short Story for Christmas.
Mohinder's true story
Christmas was just a good time to drink more whisky and beer for Mohinder, until he found the real meaning of Christmas.

Finding help in our lives
Can God really meet our needs today?


Sunday, December 14, 2008

Addictive Relationships

Millions of people in America are suffering from unhealthy relationship patterns as a result of being addicted to another person. Addictive love patterns are evident in all types of relationships: women with men, women with women, men with men, parents with children, and children with parents. However, addictive love relationships are most often evident in romantic interactions between men and women. Often the dysfunctional patterns are passed on from parents to their children.

An addictive relationship is a single overwhelming involvement that cuts a person off from life. It is an addiction in the same sense as drug dependence, identified by ever-increasing craving and ultimate withdrawal syndrome, with the same dynamics of passivity, low self-esteem, magical thinking, helplessness, and lack of initiative or self-confidence.

In order to work toward mutual understanding and mature love, persons must distinguish between healthy commitment and interdependence, and the destructive exploitation of self and others which masquerades as love.

The following check list is a guide to help in identifying the tendency to form addictive, unhealthy relationships. Agreement with most of the following statements probably indicates a long-standing problem with addictive love.

1. To be happy, you need a relationship. When you are not in a relationship, you feel depressed, and the cure for healing that depression usually involves meeting a new person.

2. You often feel magnetically drawn to another person. You act on this feeling even when you suspect the person may not be good for you.

3. You often try to change another person to meet your ideal.

4. Even when a relationship isn't good for you, you find it difficult to break it off.

5. When you consider breaking a relationship, you worry about what will happen to the other person without you.

6. After a break-up, you immediately start looking for a new relationship in order to avoid being alone.

7. You are often involved with someone unavailable who lives far away, is married, is involved with someone else, or is emotionally distant.

8. A kind, available person probably seems boring to you and even if he/she likes you, you will probably reject him/her.

9. Even though you may demonstrate independence in other areas, you are fearful of independence within a love relationship.

10. You find it hard to say no to the person with whom you are involved.

11. You do not really believe you deserve a good relationship.

12. Your self-doubt causes you to be jealous and possessive in an effort to maintain control.

13. Sexually, you are more concerned with pleasing your partner than pleasing yourself.

14. You feel as if you are unable to stop seeing a certain person even though you know that continuing the relationship is destructive to you.

15. Memories of a relationship continue to control your thoughts for months or even years after it has ended.

Addictive love is ultimately destructive to itself and to the persons involved. Addicted lovers are increasingly unable to cope with anyone or anything else. The relationship becomes the only point of certainty in a bewildering and lonely world. Addictive love does produce a certain excitement that is not present in healthier relationships, which is why some people stay in an unfulfilling relationship long after they've recognized the dysfunctional nature of it.

By contrast, mature lovers have the desire to grow and expand themselves through the relationship. They do not use the lover to fill up the emptiness within themselves, but are self-completed. The relationship brings out the best in them. They are friends who enjoy each other for their own individuality, yet the relationship is integrated into the totality of life, and they maintain other serious interests as well.

Recovery from love addiction is possible, and with it, the opportunity for healthier, non-addictive relationships in the future. The first step is to admit there is a problem. Then there must be a willingness to take action: break old patterns, increase self-esteem, and make new priorities in relationships and in life as a whole.

Spiritual resources are important for a balanced approach to handling any circumstance of life. In a relationship with God, people have the assurance that God is with them always.

Addictive Drugs and Other Substances

THIS WILL PEOPLE STARTED TO BE AN ADDICT


Alcohol

Alcohol is the most commonly abused substance in the country. In fact, more than 18 million Americans experience alcohol abuse or alcohol dependence some time in their life. ...
Read more about Alcohol Addiction.

Cocaine

Use of both forms of cocaine is on the rise, especially for younger people ages 18-25. In fact, cocaine is the second most used drug in the U.S. ...
Read more about Cocaine Addiction.

Heroin

A total of 1.4% of all Americans have reported using heroin in their lifetime. Although this number may be small in comparison to other drugs, Heroin use is on the rise in the United States. ...
Read more about Heroin Addiction.

Marijuana

Marijuana is the most commonly abused drug in the United States. More than 33% of people have reported using it. Although it is not considered one of the hard drugs of abuse, it is addictive and debilitating. ...

Read more about Marijuana Addiction.

Methamphetamine

Methamphetamine is a very addictive stimulant drug that affects the central nervous system. ...
Read more about Methamphetamine Addiction.

Prescription Drugs

About 20% of Americans report having used prescription drugs for non-medical purposes during some time in their life. ...
Read more about Prescription Drug Addiction.

Games That Have Been Reported To Be Addictive


Massively Multiplayer Online Roleplaying Games (MMORPGs)

Also known as "MMOs", these types of games have been reported to be the most addictive in nature because of the following unique attributes:

  • They never end. You can never truly win or lose the game as a whole. There is always something more to be done and more progress to be made.
  • Success in these games is highly dependent on the amount of time you put into them. Playing the game casually will leave you trailing behind others who put in more time, possibly making you feel as if you aren't as good or are falling behind.
  • Encourages interaction amongst other people and development of groups (guilds), allowing people to flourish socially online, providing an escape for their struggling social life or ruining their successful social life.
  • People may become attached to their new online friends, valuing them equal to or even above their real friends.
  • Certain events in the games may require a large group of people, resulting in this group scheduling a set time to attend these events, which may take anywhere from 2-8 hours at a time. Players may be obligated to attend these events.
  • Some have been known to find romantic companionship with other people playing the game and value this companionship equal to real life.

Online Multiplayer Games & Singleplayer RPGs

These games, though not always as addictive in nature as the MMORPG type mentioned above, have a different type of appeal for certain crowds.

  • These games typically require lots of practice to build up a good skill level. Gamers with high levels of skill are respected more by their online peers.
  • They typically involve the user logging in, and then starting a session from scratch. Depending on the game, these sessions may last as much as 4-6 hours, but could be much less. Quitting the game in the middle of a session may result in the loss of progress, giving the gamer a sense that the time spent was "for nothing".
  • Like MMORPGs, they encourage interaction amongst other people and development of groups (guilds), allowing people to flourish socially online, providing an escape for their struggling social life or ruining their successful social life. These games typically do not rely on the multiplayer aspect near as much as MMORPGs.
  • Like MMORPGs, the gamer may become attached to their new online friends, valuing them equal to or even above their real friends.
  • A common goal in these games may be to acquire the best win-loss record or the highest level character with the best items or statistics. This increases the desire for competition and may give the sense that more play time will get you ahead of others.

Console Games

Console games consist of those played on a television through a gaming console such as the Playstation, Nintendo, and Xbox. We have received stories of people spending endless hours on these games, and prioritizing the purchase of new games or consoles over paying the bills. In general, these games have less of a social aspect to be addicted to so the gamers are drawn to the genuine allure of the game itself, though technological advances are allowing some of these games to move into the online multiplayer realm.


Other Games

For certain types of people, any type of game can be addictive. Those with addictive personalities may find themselves interrupted by desires to play a quick game of Pinball or Tetris on the computer, or even Solitaire or Minesweeper, etc. One game turns into another and finally two hours have passed playing a basic, repetitive game that many would never guess you could be addicted to. Though few exhibit addiction to this type of game, it is entirely possible and any problem should be recognized.



Click here to view a list of popular online multiplayer games and singleplayer RPGs.

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Why Why Love started showing

Taiwanese drama “Why Why Love” (previously “Exchange Love“) has started showing on today (June 3) in Taiwan.

The cast and production team held a press conference cum party on Saturday (June 2) to celebrate the starting of the anticipated show.

Rainie, Mike and Kingone at Why Why Love press conference

The drama starred the same main cast from popular TV drama “Devil Beside You” including Mike He, Rainie Yang and Kingone Wang.

Rainie will play a girl from poor family and has to work hard to pay her family debts; she somehow bumped into 2 rich and handsome brothers (Mike and Kingone), the sons of her boss… and started some interesting love stories…

Kingone is the elder brother that is smart, gentle and helps run the family business; while Mike initially an arrogant jerk.

I can easily guess that Mike will change his behavior because of his love for Rainie later in the story, and that Rainie will choose Mike over Kingone… I will be surprise if the story doesn’t end that way.

Btw, don’t ask me when it will be showing in other places, I have no info at the moment.

More press conference pics at Asiapopular Forum

Official website (Chinese)

[Image credits to tom.com]

IT STARTED WITH A LOVE AFFAIR

Jerry Williams


In July of '62
The moment we met
My summer with you
I'll never forget

I was looking to find
Someone carin' like you
When I think of the time
Feelin' lonely and blue didn't know what to do

Ah Oh Oh

It started with a love affair
You showed me how to really care
With you I travel everywhere
If you feel the same only call my name
I'll be there

They play it now again
Our favorite song
It's still the same the refrain
Despite the years have gone

I was lucky to find
Someone carein' like you
When I think of the time
Feelin' lonely and blue didn't know what to do

It started with a love affair
You showed me how to really care
With you I travel everywhere
If you feel the same only call my name
I'll be there

I was lucky to find
Someone careing like you
When I think of the time
Feelin' lonely and blue didn't know what to do

It started with a love affair
You showed me how to really care
With you I travel everywhere
If you feel the same only call my name
I'll be there



(Transcribed by Bette Carl - September 2002)