Monday, December 22, 2008

Story of Rudolph


The True Story of Rudolph

The story behind the story


On a December night in Chicago many years ago, a little girl climbed onto her father's lap and asked a question. It was a simple question, asked in children's curiosity, yet it had a heart-rending effect on Robert May.
"Daddy," four-year-old Barbara May asked, "Why isn't my mommy just like everybody else's mommy?"
Bob May stole a glance across his shabby two-room apartment. On a couch lay his young wife, Evelyn, racked with cancer. For two years she had been bedridden. For two years, all of Bob's small income and smaller savings had gone to pay for treatments and medication.
The terrible ordeal had already shattered two adult lives. Now, Bob suddenly realized the happiness of his growing daughter was also in jeopardy. As he ran his fingers through Barbara's hair, he groped for some satisfactory answer to her question.
Bob May knew only too well what it meant to be 'different'. As a child he had been weak and delicate. With the innocent cruelty of children, his playmates had continually goaded the stunted, skinny lad to tears. Later, at Dartsmouth, from which he graduated in 1936, Bob May was so small that he was always being mistaken for someone's little brother.
Nor was his adult life much happier. Unlike many of his classmates who floated from college into plush jobs, Bob became a lowly copy writer for Montgomery Ward, the big Chicago mail order house. Now at 33, Bob was deep in debt, depressed and sad.
Although, he didn't know it at the time, the answer he gave the little child on his lap was to bring him fame and fortune. It was also to bring joy to countless thousands of children like his own Barbara. On that December night in the shabby Chicago apartment, Bob cradled the little girl's head against his shoulder and began to tell a story . . .
"Once upon a time, there was a reindeer named Rudolph, the only reindeer in the world that had a big red nose. Naturally people called him "Rudolph, the red-nosed reindeer." As Bob went on to tell about Rudolph, he tried desperately to communicate to Barbara the knowledge that, even though some creatures of God are strange and different, they often enjoy the miraculous power to make others happy.
"Rudolph," Bob explained, "was terribly embarrassed by his unique nose. Other reindeer laughed at him; his mother and father and sister were mortified, too. Even Rudolph wallowed in self pity."
"Why was I born with such a terrible nose?" he cried.
"Well," continued Bob, "one Christmas eve, Santa Claus got his team of husky reindeer - Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, and Vixen, and the others -- ready for their yearly trip around the world. The entire reindeer community assembled to cheer these great heroes on their way. But, a terrible fog engulfed the earth that evening, and Santa knew that the mist was so thick that he wouldn't be able to find a single chimney."
"Suddenly Rudolph appeared, his read nose glowing brighter than ever. Santa sensed at once that here was the answer to his perplexing problem. He led Rudolph to the front of the sleigh, fastened the harness and climbed in. They were off! Rudolph guided Santa safely to every chimney that night. Rain, and fog, snow and sleet -- nothing bothered Rudolph for his bright red nose penetrated like a beacon."
"And, so it was that Rudolph became the most famous and beloved of all the reindeer. The huge red nose he once hid in shame was now the envy of every buck and doe in the reindeer world. Santa Claus told everyone that Rudolph had saved the day, and from that Christmas on, Rudolph has been living serenely and happy."
Little Barbara laughed with glee when her father had finished. Every night she begged him to repeat the tale until finally Bob could rattle it off in his sleep. Then, at Christmas time, he decided to make the story into a poem like the 'Night Before Christmas' and prepare it in a booklet form with crude illustrations, for Barbara's personal gift.
Night after night, Bob worked on the verses after Barbara had gone to bed, for he was determined that his daughter should have a worthwhile gift, even though he could not afford to buy one.
Then, as Bob was about to put the finishing touches on Rudolph, tragedy struck. Evelyn May died. Bob, his hopes crushed, turned to Barbara as his chief comfort. Yet, despite his grief, he sat at his desk in the quiet, now lonely apartment, and worked on Rudolph with tears in his eyes.
Shortly after Barbara had cried with joy over his handmade gift on Christmas morning, Bob was asked to an employee's holiday party at Montgomery Wards. He didn't want to go, but his office associates insisted. When Bob finally agreed, he took with him the poem and read it to the crowd. At first the noisy throng listened in laughter and gaiety. Then, they became silent, and at the end broke into spontaneous applause. That was in 1938.
By Christmas of 1947, some 6 million copies of the booklet had been given away or sold, making Rudolph one of the most widely distributed books in the world. The demand for Rudolph sponsored products increased so much in variety and number that educators and historians predicted Rudolph would occupy a permanent niche in the Christmas legend.
Through the years of unhappiness, the tragedy of his wife's death and his ultimate success with Rudolph, Bob May has captured a sense of serenity. And as each Christmas rolls around he recalled with thankfulness the night when his daughter's questions inspired him to write the story.

Thursday, December 18, 2008

How did christmas start?

Christmas

Where did it come from?

Where is it going?

In many countries of the world, the celebration of Christmas on December 25th is a high point of the year. But why? Can it have any real meaning for us today? Is there a 'real' Christmas message?

Christmas celebrations in the West today

From November onwards, it is impossible to forget that Christmas is coming. Coloured lights decorate many town centres and shops, along with shiny decorations, and artificial snow painted on shop windows.

In streets and shops, 'Christmas trees' (real or plastic evergreen 'conifer' trees) will also be decorated with lights and Christmas ornaments.

Toast Glasses
Shopping centres become busier as December approaches and often stay open till late.Shopping centre speaker systems systems will play Christmas 'carols' - the traditional Christmas Christian songs, and groups of people will often sing carols on the streets to raise money for charity. Most places of work will hold a short Christmas party about a week before Christmas. Although traditional Christmas foods may be eaten, drink (and plenty of it) means that little work will be done after the party!

By mid-December, most homes will also be decorated with Christmas trees, coloured lights and paper or plastic decorations around the rooms. These days, many more people also decorate garden trees or house walls with coloured electric lights, a habit which has long been popular in USA.

Christmas Tree
In many countries, most people post Christmas greeting cards to their friends and family, and these cards will be hung on the walls of their homes. In UK this year, the British Post Office expects to handle over 100 million cards EACH DAY, in the three weeks before Christmas.
Christmas cards

The custom of sending Christmas cards started in Britain in 1840 when the first 'Penny Post' public postal deliveries began. (Helped by the new railway system, the public postal service was the 19th century's communication revolution, just as email is for us today.) As printing methods improved, Christmas cards were produced in large numbers from about 1860. They became even more popular in Britain when a card could be posted in an unsealed envelope for one half-penny - half the price of an ordinary letter.

Traditionally, Christmas cards showed religious pictures - Mary, Joseph and baby Jesus, or other parts of the Christmas story. Today, pictures are often jokes, winter pictures, Father Christmas, or romantic scenes of life in past times.

Christmas Cards
Father Christmas The old man with the sack

'Father Christmas' (or 'Santa Claus') has become the human face of Christmas. Pictures will be seen everywhere of the old man with long white beard, red coat, and bag of toys. Children are taught that he brings them presents the night before Christmas (or in some countries on December 6th - St. Nicholas' Day), and many children up to the age of 7 or 8 really believe this is true. In most countries, it is said that he lives near the North Pole, and arrives through the sky on a sledge (snow-cart) pulled by reindeer. He comes into houses down the chimney at midnight and places presents for the children in socks or bags by their beds or in front of the family Christmas tree.

In shops or at children's parties, someone will dress up as Father Christmas and give small presents to children, or ask them what gifts they want for Christmas. Christmas can be a time of magic and excitement for children.

Who was he?

Father Christmas is based on a real person, St. Nicholas, which explains his other name 'Santa Claus' which comes from the Dutch 'Sinterklaas'. Nicholas was a Christian leader from Myra (in modern-day Turkey) in the 4th century AD. He was very shy, and wanted to give money to poor people without them knowing about it. It is said that one day, he climbed the roof of a house and dropped a purse of money down the chimney. It landed in the stocking which a girl had put to dry by the fire! This may explain the belief that Father Christmas comes down the chimney and places gifts in children's stockings.

Boxing Day

In English-speaking countries, the day following Christmas Day is called 'Boxing Day'. This word comes from the custom which started in the Middle Ages around 800 years ago: churches would open their 'alms boxe' (boxes in which people had placed gifts of money) and distribute the contents to poor people in the neighbourhood on the day after Christmas. The tradition continues today - small gifts are often given to delivery workers such as postal staff and children who deliver newspapers.

Making sense of Christmas

Today in the West, not many people consider the religious meaning to Christmas. Most people in UK or Europe will not go to a religious church meeting, even at Christmas. It has become a busy race to spend money on presents, and get ready for the Day. In UK, our shops stay open till late Christmas Eve and often open again on Boxing Day with the cut-price 'sales'. (Not much holiday for the poor shop workers!) A visitor from another world would think that Christmas was a festival to the gods of money and shopping.

What do you want from Christmas?

Many people do hope for more than presents at Christmas. We want to somehow return to a time in our childhood (or some other good time in the past), when life was simpler and made more sense, before the troubles of adult life arrived. We feel sure that behind all the fun and decorations, there must somehow be a message, something more, some key to life, hope and happiness.

So can we look beyond the way Christmas is celebrated today, and find any real meaning, any message for our lives today?

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The real Christmas Story
What really happened?
How did the story end?
OR DID IT?
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'C H R I S T M A S' by Joan Clifton Costner - Poem
'~ Christmas in the Air ~' by Marie Williams - Poem
'Christmas Memories' by Marie Williams - Poem
Mohinder's true story
Christmas was just a good time to drink extra whisky and beer for Mohinder, until he found the real meaning of Christmas.
The problem page
Christmas can often be a time of debt, stress, worry, loneliness, even suicide.
Our problem pages try to help.

How did Christmas start?

Since about 400 AD, Christians have celebrated the birth of Jesus. 'Christ' means 'Messiah' or 'Anointed One' - the title given to Jesus - and 'Mass' was a religious festival.

In the West today, the real meaning of Christmas is often forgotten. It has become a non-religious holiday! More children believe in Father Christmas than in Jesus. Christmas Day is a time for eating and drinking too much and watching television.

But the real Christmas story is found in the Christian Bible. It is told in two different books: Matthew and Luke chapters 1 and 2. If you have no Bible, you can read these chapters online. You may think that the story of the birth of Jesus, and the way that the West celebrates Christmas today, do not seem to have many connections.

Mary says "yes"

Mary & Joseph on journey
copyright New Tribes
These chapters tell how Jesus was born as a baby to Mary. This was no ordinary birth! She was not married, she was a virgin, (yes, really!) and an angel had told her she would bear a special baby. Her husband-to-be, Joseph, did not believe her at first. Who would? Then an angel told him in a dream that it was true! Probably no one else believed it. So when they had to travel from their home in Nazareth to Bethlehem (near Jerusalem), to register their names with the ruling Roman government, they probably escaped many hard words from other people.
Nativity

Arrival in Bethlehem brought worry and upset: there was no room for them to stay at the hotel. There was only space in the stable - the animal house for travellers' donkeys and horses.

Jesus was born that night, and as they had no bed for him, they used an animal feeding box filled with the dry grass the animals ate.

Christmas cards and pictures today make it all seem very nice. In truth, it must have been dirty and frightening for a young couple, far from their home and families. Possibly the birth was premature after the stress of the journey. This was a very poor place for Jesus to start his life on earth.

God's plan?

Christians believe that it was exactly God's plan that things happened this way. They say that it shows that Jesus came as a humble, poor person and not as a strong, rich king. They also claim that the birth of Jesus was told many years before in the books of the prophets.

Five hundred years before, the prophet Micah had said,

"But you Bethlehem, though you are small, out of you will come for me, one who will be ruler over Israel, whose origins are from of old, from ancient times."

The prophet Isaiah had written,

"A child is born to us! A son is given to us! And he will be our ruler.

He will be called, "Wonderful Counsellor," "Mighty God," "Eternal Father," "Prince of Peace." His royal power will continue to grow; his kingdom will always be at peace....

He will rule as King David's successor, basing his power on right and justice, from now until the end of time."

These are only two of many prophetic words that told of the birth and life of Jesus, written hundreds of years before His birth.

The shepherds are frightened
Angel & Shepherds
copyright New Tribes
At that time, sheep farmers were seen by other people as low and of no value. Yet it was to these shepherds that the birth of Jesus was first announced in an amazing dramatic way:

"That night there were some men looking after sheep in the fields nearby. Suddenly they saw a great light. It was an angel, who said,

Shepherds
'Don't be afraid. I have good news for you, and for all people. Someone great has been born today. He is Christ, the great King you have been waiting for. He will save you from all that is wrong and evil. You will find him dressed in baby clothes, lying on a bed of dry grass.'"

The story of the wise men

After Jesus was born, wise men came to look for Him, from an area which is now in either Iran or Saudi Arabia. Although they are often called the "Three Kings", the Bible does not say how many there were, or that they were kings. Three is only a guess because they brought with them three gifts.

Gold, Frankincense and Myrrh

Three wise men

They were certainly men of learning - probably today we would call them philosophers or scientists. They had seen an unusual new star in the sky, and knew that it told of the birth of a special king. (The star they saw was probably a exploding "supernova" and is known from astronomical records.) They followed the direction of the star and eventually found the place where Mary, Joseph and Jesus were staying. To bring honour to the child, they brought rich gifts: gold, frankincense (a resin which burns with a beautiful smell), and myrrh (plant oil with a very strong sweet smell). These gifts tell us in pictures three key things about Jesus:

Gold: a gift fit for a King

Frankincense: burnt in worship of God

Myrrh: a sign of mortal human-ness - it was used to bury the dead

Jesus a refugee

Herod, the evil king of the area, heard about the child, saw Him as a threat, and sent soldiers to kill Jesus. But God told Joseph in a dream to take Mary and the baby and escape to Egypt. They lived there till King Herod died and then went back to live in Nazareth. We read nothing more about the life of Jesus, except for one story when he was 12, until He reached 30. By the way - note one important thing: Jesus was not a white European, and Christianity is not a Western religion. Christmas cards from different countries often show Mary, Joseph and Jesus in the landscape of that country, and with the racial appearance of that nationality, be it black African, Indian, or Japanese. This is good and right - Jesus came to identify with every racial group. He is "Everyman" for us all.

The end of the story?

Here is a newspaper cartoon printed some years ago, showing Father Christmas reading the Christmas story to a child. "But how did it end?" the child asks. Behind them, you can see the Cross (execution pole) on which Jesus was killed at the age of 33.

Jesus was indeed "the man born to die". But that was not the end of the story. It is still going on, and you can be part of the story, if you wish.

santa and the cross

"But how did it end?"

with permission: courtesy
The Guardian/Observer

No other person has had such an effect on human lives as Jesus. He came back to life again, and millions say they know Him today as a friend and helper in their lives. You owe it to yourself to find out more about Him. Is He who He claimed to be? Can He help us in our lives today? You have nothing to lose! Christmas is the time to stop and think about these important questions.

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Little Baby Jesus - Poem

The Manger Scene - Poem

Blessed Holy Night -Poem

The Perfect Tree.
A Short Story for Christmas.
Mohinder's true story
Christmas was just a good time to drink more whisky and beer for Mohinder, until he found the real meaning of Christmas.

Finding help in our lives
Can God really meet our needs today?


Sunday, December 14, 2008

Addictive Relationships

Millions of people in America are suffering from unhealthy relationship patterns as a result of being addicted to another person. Addictive love patterns are evident in all types of relationships: women with men, women with women, men with men, parents with children, and children with parents. However, addictive love relationships are most often evident in romantic interactions between men and women. Often the dysfunctional patterns are passed on from parents to their children.

An addictive relationship is a single overwhelming involvement that cuts a person off from life. It is an addiction in the same sense as drug dependence, identified by ever-increasing craving and ultimate withdrawal syndrome, with the same dynamics of passivity, low self-esteem, magical thinking, helplessness, and lack of initiative or self-confidence.

In order to work toward mutual understanding and mature love, persons must distinguish between healthy commitment and interdependence, and the destructive exploitation of self and others which masquerades as love.

The following check list is a guide to help in identifying the tendency to form addictive, unhealthy relationships. Agreement with most of the following statements probably indicates a long-standing problem with addictive love.

1. To be happy, you need a relationship. When you are not in a relationship, you feel depressed, and the cure for healing that depression usually involves meeting a new person.

2. You often feel magnetically drawn to another person. You act on this feeling even when you suspect the person may not be good for you.

3. You often try to change another person to meet your ideal.

4. Even when a relationship isn't good for you, you find it difficult to break it off.

5. When you consider breaking a relationship, you worry about what will happen to the other person without you.

6. After a break-up, you immediately start looking for a new relationship in order to avoid being alone.

7. You are often involved with someone unavailable who lives far away, is married, is involved with someone else, or is emotionally distant.

8. A kind, available person probably seems boring to you and even if he/she likes you, you will probably reject him/her.

9. Even though you may demonstrate independence in other areas, you are fearful of independence within a love relationship.

10. You find it hard to say no to the person with whom you are involved.

11. You do not really believe you deserve a good relationship.

12. Your self-doubt causes you to be jealous and possessive in an effort to maintain control.

13. Sexually, you are more concerned with pleasing your partner than pleasing yourself.

14. You feel as if you are unable to stop seeing a certain person even though you know that continuing the relationship is destructive to you.

15. Memories of a relationship continue to control your thoughts for months or even years after it has ended.

Addictive love is ultimately destructive to itself and to the persons involved. Addicted lovers are increasingly unable to cope with anyone or anything else. The relationship becomes the only point of certainty in a bewildering and lonely world. Addictive love does produce a certain excitement that is not present in healthier relationships, which is why some people stay in an unfulfilling relationship long after they've recognized the dysfunctional nature of it.

By contrast, mature lovers have the desire to grow and expand themselves through the relationship. They do not use the lover to fill up the emptiness within themselves, but are self-completed. The relationship brings out the best in them. They are friends who enjoy each other for their own individuality, yet the relationship is integrated into the totality of life, and they maintain other serious interests as well.

Recovery from love addiction is possible, and with it, the opportunity for healthier, non-addictive relationships in the future. The first step is to admit there is a problem. Then there must be a willingness to take action: break old patterns, increase self-esteem, and make new priorities in relationships and in life as a whole.

Spiritual resources are important for a balanced approach to handling any circumstance of life. In a relationship with God, people have the assurance that God is with them always.

Addictive Drugs and Other Substances

THIS WILL PEOPLE STARTED TO BE AN ADDICT


Alcohol

Alcohol is the most commonly abused substance in the country. In fact, more than 18 million Americans experience alcohol abuse or alcohol dependence some time in their life. ...
Read more about Alcohol Addiction.

Cocaine

Use of both forms of cocaine is on the rise, especially for younger people ages 18-25. In fact, cocaine is the second most used drug in the U.S. ...
Read more about Cocaine Addiction.

Heroin

A total of 1.4% of all Americans have reported using heroin in their lifetime. Although this number may be small in comparison to other drugs, Heroin use is on the rise in the United States. ...
Read more about Heroin Addiction.

Marijuana

Marijuana is the most commonly abused drug in the United States. More than 33% of people have reported using it. Although it is not considered one of the hard drugs of abuse, it is addictive and debilitating. ...

Read more about Marijuana Addiction.

Methamphetamine

Methamphetamine is a very addictive stimulant drug that affects the central nervous system. ...
Read more about Methamphetamine Addiction.

Prescription Drugs

About 20% of Americans report having used prescription drugs for non-medical purposes during some time in their life. ...
Read more about Prescription Drug Addiction.

Games That Have Been Reported To Be Addictive


Massively Multiplayer Online Roleplaying Games (MMORPGs)

Also known as "MMOs", these types of games have been reported to be the most addictive in nature because of the following unique attributes:

  • They never end. You can never truly win or lose the game as a whole. There is always something more to be done and more progress to be made.
  • Success in these games is highly dependent on the amount of time you put into them. Playing the game casually will leave you trailing behind others who put in more time, possibly making you feel as if you aren't as good or are falling behind.
  • Encourages interaction amongst other people and development of groups (guilds), allowing people to flourish socially online, providing an escape for their struggling social life or ruining their successful social life.
  • People may become attached to their new online friends, valuing them equal to or even above their real friends.
  • Certain events in the games may require a large group of people, resulting in this group scheduling a set time to attend these events, which may take anywhere from 2-8 hours at a time. Players may be obligated to attend these events.
  • Some have been known to find romantic companionship with other people playing the game and value this companionship equal to real life.

Online Multiplayer Games & Singleplayer RPGs

These games, though not always as addictive in nature as the MMORPG type mentioned above, have a different type of appeal for certain crowds.

  • These games typically require lots of practice to build up a good skill level. Gamers with high levels of skill are respected more by their online peers.
  • They typically involve the user logging in, and then starting a session from scratch. Depending on the game, these sessions may last as much as 4-6 hours, but could be much less. Quitting the game in the middle of a session may result in the loss of progress, giving the gamer a sense that the time spent was "for nothing".
  • Like MMORPGs, they encourage interaction amongst other people and development of groups (guilds), allowing people to flourish socially online, providing an escape for their struggling social life or ruining their successful social life. These games typically do not rely on the multiplayer aspect near as much as MMORPGs.
  • Like MMORPGs, the gamer may become attached to their new online friends, valuing them equal to or even above their real friends.
  • A common goal in these games may be to acquire the best win-loss record or the highest level character with the best items or statistics. This increases the desire for competition and may give the sense that more play time will get you ahead of others.

Console Games

Console games consist of those played on a television through a gaming console such as the Playstation, Nintendo, and Xbox. We have received stories of people spending endless hours on these games, and prioritizing the purchase of new games or consoles over paying the bills. In general, these games have less of a social aspect to be addicted to so the gamers are drawn to the genuine allure of the game itself, though technological advances are allowing some of these games to move into the online multiplayer realm.


Other Games

For certain types of people, any type of game can be addictive. Those with addictive personalities may find themselves interrupted by desires to play a quick game of Pinball or Tetris on the computer, or even Solitaire or Minesweeper, etc. One game turns into another and finally two hours have passed playing a basic, repetitive game that many would never guess you could be addicted to. Though few exhibit addiction to this type of game, it is entirely possible and any problem should be recognized.



Click here to view a list of popular online multiplayer games and singleplayer RPGs.

Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Why Why Love started showing

Taiwanese drama “Why Why Love” (previously “Exchange Love“) has started showing on today (June 3) in Taiwan.

The cast and production team held a press conference cum party on Saturday (June 2) to celebrate the starting of the anticipated show.

Rainie, Mike and Kingone at Why Why Love press conference

The drama starred the same main cast from popular TV drama “Devil Beside You” including Mike He, Rainie Yang and Kingone Wang.

Rainie will play a girl from poor family and has to work hard to pay her family debts; she somehow bumped into 2 rich and handsome brothers (Mike and Kingone), the sons of her boss… and started some interesting love stories…

Kingone is the elder brother that is smart, gentle and helps run the family business; while Mike initially an arrogant jerk.

I can easily guess that Mike will change his behavior because of his love for Rainie later in the story, and that Rainie will choose Mike over Kingone… I will be surprise if the story doesn’t end that way.

Btw, don’t ask me when it will be showing in other places, I have no info at the moment.

More press conference pics at Asiapopular Forum

Official website (Chinese)

[Image credits to tom.com]

IT STARTED WITH A LOVE AFFAIR

Jerry Williams


In July of '62
The moment we met
My summer with you
I'll never forget

I was looking to find
Someone carin' like you
When I think of the time
Feelin' lonely and blue didn't know what to do

Ah Oh Oh

It started with a love affair
You showed me how to really care
With you I travel everywhere
If you feel the same only call my name
I'll be there

They play it now again
Our favorite song
It's still the same the refrain
Despite the years have gone

I was lucky to find
Someone carein' like you
When I think of the time
Feelin' lonely and blue didn't know what to do

It started with a love affair
You showed me how to really care
With you I travel everywhere
If you feel the same only call my name
I'll be there

I was lucky to find
Someone careing like you
When I think of the time
Feelin' lonely and blue didn't know what to do

It started with a love affair
You showed me how to really care
With you I travel everywhere
If you feel the same only call my name
I'll be there



(Transcribed by Bette Carl - September 2002)

That's How the Story of Love Started


I have translated this from an Arabic story that a friend sent me... Thanks Friend.....
Gold_N_Silk

That's How the Story of Love Started - My Poems

That's how the story of Love started
Once upon a time
there was no life on earth
Except for the children of Vice and Virtue
who were roaming on earth
not knowing what to do
bored with the feeling of nothingness

Then... one day
Creativity suggested
a game of hide and seek
to overcome boredom

All applauded and welcomed the idea

Madness jumped and cried:
I want to start
I want to start
I shall close my eyes
and start to count
you all go to hide

Madness leaned on a trunk of a tree
And started counting
One
Two
Three

One after the other
Children of Vice and Virtue started hiding

Kindness found a place
on the face of the moon
Deceit found a hiding in dirt
Romance found a place
in the clouds
Longing found a hiding
in the cavity of earth

Lieing cried:
I will hide under a rock
then went under water
to the bottom of the lake

Madness conting was about to be done:
Seventy nine
Eighty
Eighty one ...

Children of Vice and Virtue all went to hiding
Except for Love

Love, as usual
was unable to decide
where to hide
and as usual
Love is hard
to hide

Madness continued countin':
Ninety five
Ninety six
Ninety seven

Love was still trying to hide

Madness continued:
Ninety eight
Ninety nine
One Hund...

Love jumped into the garden
and among the roses found a hiding

Madness continued:
Hundred...
with eyes opened
Madness shouted
Here I come
I will find you one by one

Laziness was first to be found
as it is so hard to hide,

Lieing came out breathless
from under the water

when the clouds moved west
Romance had to appear
Kindness with moon light
came on the clear

Longing was found
and no more could hide

Madness found them one by one
But hopelessly kept looking for Love
Till Jelousy whispered
Love is hiding in the roses

Madness took a sharp wooden spear
started striking at the rose bush
to get Love to come out of hiding
Love came out covering his eyes

Madness Cried:
OH MY God
What have I done?
What shall I do?
I have blinded Love

Love answered:
You can not bring back my sight
So be my guide

Since then
Love that was blinded
Has been
by Madness guided

And you know the rest of the story
Happy Valentine Day
*************
THE END

One year....(a love story)

One year....

by

I sit here dwelling on the past

wondering if you are thinking of me

are we thinking the same thoughts?

of that day that seems so long ago

the day you looked me in the eyes

and said you loved me

yet you could not take it anymore

you kissed me

knowing that it would be the last

you hugged me

fearing it would end

you said you loved me

but things had changed

you just couldn't be with me anymore

I sit here remembering that day

the day you walked away

when I whispered "I love you"

did you hear?

One year...

since the day you looked me in the eyes

and broke my heart.

December 8th 2008

Love started with a lie

Submitted by Jennifer Kim

It was a regular old Sunday and i was coming back from Church. My mom asked me if i wanted to go hit some balls with her. I didn't have anything else to do and my mom wanted to go, so i agreed. It was a cold day and i wasn't really in the mood to hit some balls, so i went inside to the lobby. I was just leaning on the golf stand trying to get away from the cold air, when this girl that works there comes up to me. She says, "You see that guy over there with the gray shirt, what do you think of him?" He wasn't the greatest looking guy on the planet, but he was cute and looked extremly nice. So i told her that he looks nice and everything. Then she briefly asked me my age like it wouldn't matter, so i lied saying that i was 15 without really caring, thinking the guy and i wouldn't go anywhere and if i told her my real age i knew she'd go "ooo" and kind of go back to what she was doing in a polite way. She told me he was a great guy and all so i should go over and talk to him. I wasn't really confident and i'm not the type of girl who'd do those kind of things. She kinda noticed that i wanted to, but that i didn't have the guts. I guess the guy wanted to talk to me and everything. I would usually think that as shallow and stuff but this was different. She goes back and tells him to go and talk to me. But he was kinda shy too, so she rolled a basketball toward me and told him to go get it and start a conversation with me. I saw the ball roll towards me, i picked it up and gave it to him. Then we started talking. He told me everything, it was amazing how he trusted me in such a lil time. I admitt i was attracted to him and i knew he was with me. My mom came out when she was done, i didn't want to say goodbye but i didn't have a choice. I said goodbye and nice meeting you. WHAT THE HELL! GOODBYE NICE MEETING YOU?!?!? What was i thinking.
Ever since that day, i regretted not giving him my number. A week passed, then 2 then 3. It seemed hopless until my mom and i went to go take my dog to get groomed and she told me on the way we were gonna head to hit some balls the same place i met the guy. I was happy but he worked from 3-11 p.m on weekends and it was only 10 a.m. I was sad until i started writing a letter to him reminding him of who i was and asking him if he wanted to, to call me and i gave him my number. The girl who first introduced me to him was there, so i asked her if she remembered me and she said yes. So i asked if she could do me a favor and give the letter to him. He got the letter and at about 10:30i got a phone call. It was an unknown number, my heart started beating so fast. I picked up the phone and it was him. I was beyond happy, and since that day we talk everyday for at least 3 hours. The problem was i got closer and closer to him but i lied about my age, we had a 4 year difference when he thought we had a 2 year difference. I couldn't admitt to him cuz i really liked the guy and i didn't want to loose him. If i told him i wasn't 15, he might think i was lieing about everything so he wouldn't like me anymore or talk to me. I still haven't told him and everyday, we talk more and more saying how much we like each other and everything. I feel so bad not telling him but i care about him to much to hurt him and loose him.

I don't know what to do and i truly like this guy, but i dont want to loose him. It was like love at first sight. If anyone reads this, can u respond with any thoughts, comments or suggestions in Lovelandia forum

Thursday, December 4, 2008

How do you start a friendship?

For me the best way to be the friend of all is to be friend.
let them feel that they are interesting and worthy of your company,
so show an interest, ask them about themselves,
where they live, work, their interests, hopes and dreams,
friends, family, loved ones, hobbies, opinions on the kind of things you like,
whether it be football, music, religion, philosophy, science, TV or anything else.



Quotations by Subject

Quotations by Subject: Friendship
(Related Subjects: Love, Charity, Enemies)
Showing quotations 1 to 30 of 57 quotations in our collections
He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere.

Ali ibn-Abi-Talib (602 AD - 661 AD), A Hundred Sayings

Misfortune shows those who are not really friends.
Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC), Eudemian Ethics

Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.
Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC), Nichomachean Ethics

A good friend can tell you what is the matter with you in a minute. He may not seem such a good friend after telling.
Arthur Brisbane, "The Book of Today"

The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.

Carl Jung (1875 - 1961)

Friendship make prosperity more shining and lessens adversity by dividing and sharing it.

Cicero (106 BC - 43 BC), On Friendship, 44 B.C.

The shifts of Fortune test the reliability of friends.

Cicero (106 BC - 43 BC), De Amicitia

It is wise to apply the oil of refined politeness to the mechanisms of friendship.

Colette (1873 - 1954), The Pure and the Impure, 1932

Being friendless taught me how to be a friend. Funny how that works.

Colleen Wainwright, Communicatrix, 11-09-07

Have no friends not equal to yourself.

Confucius (551 BC - 479 BC), The Confucian Analects

Do not protect yourself by a fence, but rather by your friends.

Czech Proverb

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.


Dale Carnegie

My mother used to say that there are no strangers, only friends you haven't met yet. She's now in a maximum security twilight home in Australia.


Dame Edna Everage (1934 - )

Never explain--your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.


Elbert Hubbard (1856 - 1915)

Nothing changes your opinion of a friend so surely as success - yours or his.


Franklin P. Jones, Saturday Evening Post, November 29, 1953

Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence. True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.


George Washington (1732 - 1799)
Nobody sees a flower - really - it is so small it takes time - we haven't time - and to see takes time, like to have a friend takes time.

Georgia O'Keeffe (1887 - 1986)

All people want is someone to listen.

Hugh Elliott, Standing Room Only weblog, May 8, 2003

Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love.


Jane Austen (1775 - 1817), Northanger Abbey
When the character of a man is not clear to you, look at his friends.

Japanese Proverb

Go through your phone book, call people and ask them to drive you to the airport. The ones who will drive you are your true friends. The rest aren't bad people; they're just acquaintances.


Jay Leno (1950 - )

In prosperity our friends know us; in adversity we know our friends.


John Churton Collins

True happiness is of a retired nature, and an enemy to pomp and noise; it arises, in the first place, from the enjoyment of one's self, and in the next from the friendship and conversation of a few select companions.


Joseph Addison (1672 - 1719), The Spectator, March 17, 1911

You don’t get to pick your own nickname. They’ve gotta give you one. It’s like we’re all tryin’ to make pets out of each other and we’re not comfortable unless we get to name ‘em.


Laura Moncur, Merriton, 03-26-08

It isn't kind to cultivate a friendship just so one will have an audience.


Lawana Blackwell, The Courtship of the Vicar's Daughter, 1998

A good friend of my son's is a son to me.


Lois McMaster Bujold, Ethan of Athos, 1986
Adversity does teach who your real friends are.


Lois McMaster Bujold, A Civil Campaign, 1999

If you make it plain you like people, it's hard for them to resist liking you back.


Lois McMaster Bujold, Diplomatic Immunity, 2002

Never refuse any advance of friendship, for if nine out of ten bring you nothing, one alone may repay you.


Madame de Tencin

It’s the friends you can call up at four a.m. that matter.


Marlene Dietrich (1901 - 1992)

Don't flatter yourself that friendship authorizes you to say disagreeable things to your intimates. The nearer you come into relation with a person, the more necessary do tact and courtesy become. Except in cases of necessity, which are rare, leave your friend to learn unpleasant things from his enemies; they are ready enough to tell them.

Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809 - 1894), The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table, 1858

I always like to know everything about my new friends, and nothing about my old ones.

Oscar Wilde (1854 - 1900)

The advice of friends must be received with a judicious reserve; we must not give ourselves up to it and follow it blindly, whether right or wrong.

Pierre Charron

Friends have all things in common.

Plato (427 BC - 347 BC), Dialogues, Phaedrus

Prosperity makes friends, adversity tries them.

Publilius Syrus (~100 BC), Maxims

Treat your friend as if he might become an enemy.


Publilius Syrus (~100 BC), Maxims

The ornament of a house is the friends who frequent it.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803 - 1882)

It's a lot like nature. You only have as many animals as the ecosystem can support and you only have as many friends as you can tolerate the bitching of.

Randy K. Milholland, Something Positive Comic, 08-16-05

Sometimes the measure of friendship isn't your ability to not harm but your capacity to forgive the things done to you and ask forgiveness for your own mistakes.

Randy K. Milholland, Something Positive Comic, 11-07-05

The only thing that lasts longer than a friend's love is the stupidity that keeps us from knowing any better.

Randy K. Milholland, Something Positive Comic, 09-07-06

There isn’t much better in this life than finding a way to spend a few hours in conversation with people you respect and love. You have to carve this time out of your life because you aren’t really living without it.

Real Live Preacher, RealLivePreacher.com Weblog, August 27, 2003

When someone allows you to bear his burdens, you have found deep friendship.

Real Live Preacher, RealLivePreacher.com Weblog, January 4, 2003

You can forget a lot of things, but you cannot forget a woman’s name and claim to love her.

Real Live Preacher, RealLivePreacher.com Weblog, October 20, 2003

There was a definite process by which one made people into friends, and it involved talking to them and listening to them for hours at a time.

Rebecca West (1892 - 1983)

Reveal not every secret you have to a friend, for how can you tell but that friend may hereafter become an enemy. And bring not all mischief you are able to upon an enemy, for he may one day become your friend.



Saadi (1184 - 1291)

The friendship that can cease has never been real.


Saint Jerome (374 AD - 419 AD), Letter

To like and dislike the same things, that is indeed true friendship.

Sallust (86 BC - 34 BC), The War with Catiline

If a man does not make new acquaintances as he advances through life, he will soon find himself alone. A man should keep his friendships in constant repair.

Samuel Johnson (1709 - 1784)

Get not your friends by bare compliments, but by giving them sensible tokens of your love.


Socrates (469 BC - 399 BC)

Friends, in my experience, are like ladies' fashions. They come and go with the seasons, and are rarely of such stout stuff as bears repeated wearing.

Stephanie Barron, Jane and the Unpleasantness at Scargrave Manor, 1996

Purchase not friends by gifts; when thou ceasest to give, such will cease to love.

Thomas Fuller (1608 - 1661)

Friends may come and go, but enemies accumulate.


Thomas Jones (1892 - 1969)

We secure our friends not by accepting favors but by doing them.

Thucydides (471 BC - 400 BC), Peloponnesian War

I've learned that all a person has in life is family and friends. If you lose those, you have nothing, so friends are to be treasured more than anything else in the world.

Trey Parker and Matt Stone, South Park, Prehistoric Ice Man, 1999

Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.

Unknown, (often attributed to Albert Camus)

I no doubt deserved my enemies, but I don't believe I deserved my friends.

Walt Whitman (1819 - 1892)

We are advertis'd by our loving friends.

William Shakespeare (1564 - 1616)

Charles Lewis: Love the sinner, hate the sin


Posted: August 19, 2008, 4:00 PM by Charles Lewis



In the most recent issue of America Magazine, a Catholic weekly published by the Jesuits, Sister Camille D’Arienzo has written a compelling and courageous piece called Mercy Toward Our Fathers. It opens up the highly controversial subject of offering forgiveness to priests who abused children.

In 2002, massive allegations came to the surface of abuse by Catholic priests, especially in the Los Angeles and Boston areas. In Los Angeles, for example, the Church paid out US$100-million to compensate 87 sex abuse victims. And then spent millions more to compensate scores of further victims across the country. It remains an especially painful issue, given that many abusers were shuttled from parish to parish in the hopes they would vanish quietly into the system.

This is not an issue that will dissipate any time soon. Last week, for instance, the Archdiocese of Cincinnati published new guidelines for what priests could do with children. It prohibits big hugs, lap-sitting and putting children on one’s shoulder or back, as well as bans on kissing, tickling or wrestling.

Sister D’Arienzo, a nun for 57 years and a member of the Religious Sisters of Mercy in Brooklyn, N.Y., has worked with men on death row as well as the families of murder victims. That experience led her to the idea of looking at the possibility of reconciliation with fallen priests. As she states in the America article, “Holding onto anger has been likened to taking a sip of poison every day — not enough to kill, but more than enough to debilitate.”

She takes care to point out that her first concern is for the victims and their loved ones. And that anyone trying to bring the message of forgiveness and reconciliation — a core part of the Christian faith — must do so delicately. “Words that are meant to comfort and console can further aggravate and ignite.” She also adds one more important point: forgiveness does not mean forgetting or letting the perpetrator escape punishment.

I spoke to Sister Camille on Tuesday to try to try to get a better understanding of her views.

Q. How did you come to this idea of seeking some kind of reconciliation with sexual abusers?

A. I worked as a spiritual advisor for a man on death row in Indiana. After a couple of years of doing that I thought I should really be doing something for victims. Eight years ago I started having annual services for families of murder victims at our Mother House. Last year we had about 80 people come, most of whom who had lost a son to gun shots. For all the people who have been coming all these years, only two called for the death penalty for their sons’ murderers. Because I have been involved with the death penalty, I have this sense that all murderers are not the same. There are some that are pathologically insane and others who commit in a time of passion. That sparked my belief that those who have been accused of sexual molestation are not all on the same plane.

Q. Do you envision a priest guilty of abuse ever being brought back into the service of the Church?

A. It depends. Was he a many-time offender or was it something that happened during one short time in his life and he never did it again and has an unblemished record of 20 years since. There’s no one-size-fits-all in any situation. Perhaps that priest could be brought back in some capacity. Never around children but maybe in a retirement home or a monastery. I don’t have the answer. What I have is great sadness with what is now: that these priests are living with a spiritual death sentence.

Q. You say you feel a tremendous sadness over this. Many people are not going to understand that.

A. My first sadness is for the victim and for those who love the victim and feel betrayed. That is paramount. I have another sadness, though. There seems to be neither the wisdom or the courage in the leadership of the Church to encourage compassion for the sinner, for the one who has done this horrible thing. And of course I am as sorry for the predator who has a sexual addiction as I would be for an alcoholic or a dope addict. Because there is an illness. There’s a whole swath of abusers who are sick. That’s one kind of concern for people who are ill. And another concern for those who had brief encounters in which they perpetrated evil on an innocent victim and who recognize that sinfulness and have repented and amended their ways and have done the best that they can to live good moral lives after the fall. What more can we ask of a human being?

My primary concern is that no child should suffer what the other children have suffered. That is one of my concerns with the priests who are abandoned, who are in disgrace — the very misery and shame that they feel might move them to do more of the same evil. Because no one has any hope for them. Or any encouragement for them. It seems to me you allow the evil to further fester if a person thinks that he is not capable of living a better life because that’s what society has told them.

Q. Can a mere mortal forgive this kind sin?

A. My hope is that someone reading the article will have the grace and the wisdom to know when and with whom to broach the topic of forgiveness. I know that words meant to console and comfort can further ignite and aggravate victims. You can make a case for slience in every horror the world has ever known. We have histories of silence. Those who speak out are really setting themselves up for misunderstanding and anger. And that’s not at all what one wants.

Q. Can you talk about the notion of forgiveness? Many say the ability to forgive, even in extreme situations, is fundamental to the gospel message.

A. [Forgiveness] is in my spirituality. People hear God’s teaching in different ways. There is the scriptural mandate that “to whom much is forgiven of that one much is required.” Some of us had a deeper and broader experience of religion and its impact: the good and not-so-good of it. For me to be silent was not appropriate. One of the most important things is that not everyone heals at the same rate or that everybody is ready for whatever medicine is available. To go too soon into someone who is hurting is to inflict greater suffering. And that’s one of my concerns. But is there a way for a caring community to help the person who needs healing?

Q. What do you hope to accomplish by talking about this?

A. It’s a twin hope. I cannot separate these hopes. One is that the person who has been hurt will consider extending forgiveness or at least to pray for the grace to want to forgive. And the one who has caused the pain will also experience forgiveness.

Charles Lewis writes about religious issues for the National Post

[Photo: Retired Roman Catholic priest Father Paul Shanley stands between two court officers during a bail reduction hearing requested by his attorney May 9, 2002 in Middlesex Superior Court in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Shanley was arrested n San Diego and returned to Massachusetts to face three charges of rape of a child for crimes that allegedly occurred in the 1980s when he was a Roman Catholic priest serving in the Archdiocese of Boston. George Rizer/Reuters.]

A Nun’s Life

About Me

by Sister Julie on April 30, 2006

My name is Julie Vieira, IHM, and A Nun’s Life is my personal blog. I am a member of the Sisters, Servants of the Immaculate Heart of Mary (IHM), a Roman Catholic religious community based in Monroe, Michigan. Our community is dedicated to the liberating mission of Jesus which we seek to express in a variety of ways according to our charism and the needs of the world around us. We are committed to building a culture of peace and right relationships. A Nun’s Life is not sponsored by nor in any way connected to the IHM Congregation. I have been been a part of my religious community for over 12 years and am one of its youngest members.

I am currently working at Loyola Press, a nonprofit publisher serving the Catholic community in faith formation, education, and spiritual growth. Loyola Press was founded in 1912 by the Chicago Province of the Society of Jesus (the Jesuits). Our mission as a company is to nurture a lived faith through building relevant and enduring bridges between our 2000-year-old Catholic faith and the needs and desires of today’s spiritual seekers. A Nun’s Life is not part of my work at Loyola Press. Though my employer and colleagues are supportive and certainly entertained by my musings, they have nothing to do with the blog or its content. My work at Loyola Press is a wonderful opportunity to bring together my professional experience as a writer and my academic training in theology and spirituality. I received a master’s degree in Theology from Regis College, a Jesuit school of theology in Toronto, and a bachelor’s degree in philosophy and religion from Saint Michael’s College at the University of Toronto.

Mostly, A Nun’s Life is my story — what it is like for me to be Catholic nun, that is, a member of a Catholic religious community of women. It’s also about nuns and sisters in general, how we are portrayed in the media, and who we are “for real.” I have been very fortunate to develop friendships with many nuns, and it is through them that I have come to better know myself and this crazy thing called religious life. Being a nun has not always been my lifelong goal. When I was growing up, I did not dress up as a nun for Halloween. When I was a young, impressionable Catholic school girl, I did not secretly (or otherwise) pine for the veils, habits, odd religious names, and overall mystique of the nuns who taught me. The whole “nun” thing kind of snuck up on me when I wasn’t paying much attention. I absolutely love being a nun. It’s what makes me who I am and helps me to be the best person I can be for God, the Church, and the world.

A Nun’s Life is intended to be an open forum — in terms of both my musings and your comments. Please write to me about how being a nun or knowing a nun has impacted your life. Keep us posted on nuns in literature, the media, popular culture, or current events. Although the focus is on being a Catholic nun, I also welcome perspectives from nuns and religious in other Christian or religious traditions.

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Tuesday, December 2, 2008

A Year of Songs

A Year of Songs
A highly informal musical autobiography. From TK Major.
Friday, December 23, 2005

I Just Started to Cry

If you've ever made love in a hayloft -- or tried -- you probably realize that the reason such
scenes are a fixture of certain romantic literature is that you have to be completely filled with a
crazed, don't give a damn passion to lay down in hay much less roll around in it.
But waking up in a hayloft the morning after puppy love turns serious during a sudden, summer
storm... I'm thinking there might be a few delicious moments, there... or maybe bittersweet, if
deep down you know you're headed out of town as soon as you can get some travelling money
together and hop a freight out to one of the coasts or maybe down to the gulf.This song is about
that moment, that very moment, when you know for certain just how much you're about to
throw away.

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I Just Started to CryWe ran through the summer night
it was hot and it was black
we ran until we were all alone
and didn't even know the way back

We were young
we were in love
that summer we were one
when I look back I start to cry
to think of what is gone

A storm came up from the south real fast
and lightning lit the rain
I looked in her eyes for a moment
and then it was dark again

Our hands entwined and then our tongues
we were soaking wet
we made our way to the old Hansen barn
and there our souls met

I woke up the next morning
and she slept by my side
the sunlight poured through the hayloft door
and I just started to cry

I cried cause she looked so pretty lying there
I cried because I loved her so
I cried cause I knew she was the only one
and I cried cause I knew I was gonna go

(C) 1991 TK MAJOR
posted by TK Major at 8:09 PM